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The Way of the Happy Woman

*This is not a sponsored post*

Back in 2005 I spent two months in Chiang Mai, Thailand, and it is one of my long-term goals to return.

For a few months now I have been receiving email from Sara Avant Stover and I thought I'd share the most recent one here.

Dear K,

I don't know about you, but for me, one of the hardest things to do is LET GO.

Another way to put that is "Surrender."

When I'm faced with a bad day, a challenging situation, or a super-human to-do list, sometimes
I can get wrapped up in the drama. I can take on a defeatist attitude and say to myself,

"Oh, I can never do that."

"I'll never have enough time."

"This is overwhelming."

And, when I say these things to myself I actually start to BELIEVE them. This is when I get into trouble. I get tired, even sick. I lose focus on the big picture. And, worst of all, I lose touch with my soft core as a woman.

I KNOW I'm not alone in this. I hear it from many of you, from my clients, students,'s so common in the world today where we face 100X more stimulation in 1 DAY than our ancestors did in a whole LIFETIME. Wow.

So here's what I do when I start to feel this way, and I hope that you will try it, too:

1. Take a step back. Look at the big picture. See the moment, day, or situation, in the larger perspective of your whole life. Take on a bird's-eye view, in other words.

2. Feel your feet. Really. Feel your feet. Take a breath all the way down through your belly and legs and into your feet. Do that for a few or several breaths, as much as you need
to really get into your body again. (When you get overwhelmed like this, you're in your head. So get back into your own skin!)

3. Ask yourself, "What do I need to know right now?" When you ask this you tune into your intuition, into the guidance from your highest self. You tune into your heart. Wait and listen
to the answer.

4. Make a date with yourself to do something pleasurable. It could be a bubble bath, a walk in the woods, sitting down and savoring an apple with almond butter. Whatever, it doesn't need to be fancy. When you have too much going on, most likely you've disconnected from what makes you happy. It's time to reconnect with that.

I hope this helps! If you have any other tips that work for you to surrender and let go, let me know, I'd love to hear them!

With love and happiness,