The first commenter at this post at singleparents.about.com is a stupid, ignorant piece of sh*t. He (she? must be a he) advocates a site called childrenneedbothparents.net, which I only had time to skim through, but this post in particular caught my eye and pissed me off even more.
I hate the way the information is presented to accuse a mother of denying her children a father in their lives. I can't think of too many women who would disallow visitation, unless the father was seriously abusive and jeopardizing his children's lives. If we want to go by half-truths, stereotypes, and out-of-context "facts," then I propose that if children are fatherless, it is because the father couldn't handle the responsibility and left. Or was forced to leave because of abuse.
It takes a lot more than two parents to make a family. And a family arrangement does not have to be of a two-gendered nuclear type in order to lead healthy children into adulthood.
Do you know how many straight single moms regret choosing the wrong man to father her children? So many of us stuck it out and tried to make it work, and decided it was in fact healthier to not expose her children to the abuses in the parental relationship.
In my own situation I had to make the difficult decision to separate from my son's father. My son was not learning how to relate to others in a healthy way because of our fighting. And get this: my son is not fatherless. He has both parents, even though we live in different cities. He spends almost every weekend with his dad and dad's family. I wouldn't let him go if I thought it was unhealthy for him. They have a close and loving relationship, and I do everything I can to encourage it. My son is well-adjusted and one of the nicest and most outgoing kids in his daycare.
To all the single parents out there, Happy Single Parents' Day.
To our critics, go to hell. Your generalizations are not helpful or useful.